Profile Tips For Men
Let’s be honest – looks matter. Especially on a dating app.
Women take about 1/10th of a second to form an opinion of you based on your photograph. That’s literally a split-second decision to swipe left or right.
You need a strong photo – or ideally, more like 3 to 5 VERY strong ones.
To get her swiping right, read these profile tips for men and start attracting the women you want to date.
#1 Choose your photos wisely – with female feedback!
Before going crazy on dating apps, the first thing you should do is get opinions from multiple women on your photos and don't have multiple women on your photos.
Ask your female friends to pick out their favourites. Even better, ask them to rank your best options from their favourite to least favourite. Then, use the ones that consistently rank the highest.
Another option is to upload your potential picks to a website like PhotoFeeler and let the feedback roll in. The more women who chime in, the better. Select the most popular photos for your Tinder profile.
Finally, if you’re stuck between 2 to 3 potential options for your main Tinder profile pic, see how many right swipes (aka. Likes) it takes to get 10 (or 20) matches for each one. The one that racks up matches the quickest wins its spot in the primary position o lots of dating apps.
Or if you want the app to automatically test out each one, then rotate the most popular photo.
Always remember this:
You’re only as attractive as your worst photo.
Don’t shoot yourself in the foot by having 4 great photos, and then the one of you blackout drunk, dressed up as Wonder Woman on Halloween. Guess which one she’s going to remember right before she swipes left or “forgets” to respond to your icebreaker message?
Getting feedback from women on your photos is essential. Not only will it help you weed out the losers and pick your 3-5 best shots, but it also allows you to lead with your strongest one.
As long as you can browse the web and you’re able to count, you can do it. It’s easy, so unless you love spending your nights alone, there’s no excuse for having a terrible photo.
Now that we’ve covered the importance of gathering opinions on your photos, let’s talk about the types of photos that commonly work well. These are the ones you should be searching your Facebook albums for, and taking more of overtime as you strive to continually improve your photos and attract hotter women…
#2 Use an intriguing selection of pictures.
Think of choosing photographs for your Tinder profile like marketing yourself. You want to highlight your best features – physical and otherwise.
Dating apps are all about the visuals. With every profile photo you display, she’s likely going to imagine herself in that frame right next to you.
Play on her subconscious desire for males who display alpha attributes by selecting pics where you appear confident, active, and like someone she’d enjoy being around.
The photo on the left shows the beautiful rolling hills of a vineyard in the background, and you’re gazing off into the distance while enjoying a glass of red wine.
The photo to the right also involves alcohol, but it’s in a sweaty bottle and you’re surrounded by a rowdy crowd of your shirtless best friends horsing around at a BBQ.
Which photo would she rather imagine herself in, standing by your side and enjoying the lifestyle she’ll be experiencing with you?
Travel photos are great for this, but make sure to also include some taken closer to home. According to a study by Chemistry.com, 81% of singles want to see photos showing your everyday life.
So get her to swipe right by giving her an enticing glimpse into your daily lifestyle.
Outdoor shots are great – natural lighting makes you look better. A camera’s flash adds 7 years to your age, which isn’t going to do you any favours.
Hiking, surfing, riding your bike – the possibilities are endless. Pick out a selection you like and start gathering feedback.
What if all my photos suck?
If you aren’t getting good feedback on the photos you’ve chosen or you simply aren’t getting matches, ask a friend with a good camera to help you out.
Consider doing your informal photo session during the Golden Hour – those minutes before sunset or just after dawn when the natural light is especially flattering.
You might want to consider using a pro photographer. No boring blue studio backgrounds, though. You want your pro shots to look natural, not staged.
Want more expert photo advice? Check out these tips for taking great online dating photos!
How many photos should I use?
There’s no hard and fast rule for dating apps, but we’ve found using 3-5 photographs gets optimal results. While it’s hard to paint an exciting and well-rounded picture of who you are with less than 3 photos, it’s also not very common for you to look equally attractive in 6+ photos.
#3 Don’t neglect your profile text… it actually matters!
Even though some apps are primarily photo-driven, don’t miss an opportunity to intrigue her with your profile text.
It’s true that not many women read your profile before they swipe, but some women who are sitting on the fence trying to decide what to do will check it out. A great profile will get them eagerly hopping over to your side of the fence. A crappy profile will make them disappear over the other side forever.
And remember, your matches will virtually all be reading it when they get a message from you.
You need a witty, engaging profile to set yourself apart from the competition.
Profile writing is a little different on some compared to more mainstream dating sites.
But what’s not as glaringly obvious is the fact you can get away with a lot more cocky/funny, over-the-top attitude on some sites – so don’t be afraid to go bold. What you don’t want to be is boring.
A great profile has 3 key components:
It’s interesting. You want to be irresistible in 500 or fewer characters.
It’s not sleazy. Even if you’re only there to hook up, don’t advertise it. That’s not hot.
It has a sense of humour. She'll remember a profile that made her laugh.
So keep all that in mind when you’re deciding what to write on your dating profile because you’ll want to strike the right tone.
While ridiculous and obviously untrue, this style of profile works because it’s confident, memorable, bold, and a little bit cocky (but not in a serious way).
This is a great approach if you’re after women in their 20s. Women over the age of 30 tend to value maturity and dependability, so you’ll want to opt for another style if you’re going for older women.
The key to a successful over-the-top approach lies in striking just the right tone of humour + attraction. It’s not an easy mark to hit, because it’s easy to come off as juvenile (not hot) or like you’re not taking dating seriously (also not hot).
When you don’t hit that sweet spot, your profile suffers for it:
Short and Sweet
This short but intriguing bio line for guys sparks her interest and curiosity. When combined with compelling pictures, she’ll be swiping right to get to know you better.
But shorter doesn’t mean easier to write. In fact, it’s often the opposite – every word needs to count when you’re only using a handful. And if you get it wrong, it’s both obvious and off-putting.
Don’t be like this guy:
Even on The more serious, grounded profile has its place. If you’re looking to attract a more mature woman – and want “The One” rather than a hookup, this style works.
Do not, however, mistake “down-to-earth” as an excuse to be no-holds barred-honest. That seldom works, especially on Tinder where you have mere seconds to make an impression.
Needless to say, adventure, intrigue and a little bit of danger are sexy. But if you opt for this type of profile, make sure your photos live up to the hype.
I’ve got matches, what’s next?
Now that you’ve used these tips and tricks to create a magnetic profile, complete with awesome pictures, you might find yourself overwhelmed with attractive matches. Great problem to have, right?
Sure, but remember this – getting a match is only half the battle. You’ve still got to stand out from the competition with an engaging icebreaker and witty conversation to score her digits and make her want to meet you in person.
Swiping is quick and easy, but then you've got to successfully start a conversation – and then maintain it! All that can be time-consuming. In fact, the NY Times reported the average App user logs in 11 times a day, for a total of 90 minutes. That’s 10.5 hours a week – practically a part-time job!
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