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How do you show you’re ready for a real online dating story?
Be calm. Be kind. Be yourself.
Online dating may have led to an increase in casual dating and hook-up culture. But people looking to meet singles on Match have chosen our service because they’re ready to start a real story. So how do you make sure someone you meet online understands you’re serious, and how do you establish those expectations?
The secret isn’t really a secret, and it’s something you’ve almost certainly been told before. The key is to be yourself, be kind and be calm. And it all starts with writing your profile.
Think about the sort of person you would like to share a long-term relationship with.
Looks matter, for sure. But the chances are you would choose someone who is genuine, considerate, interested in you and who makes you laugh. There’s nothing wrong with that: it’s the most human thing of all: we want to be with people who make us happy. When you write your online dating profile, make sure you’re the sort of person you would want to be with. Try to resist the temptation to talk just about yourself: make it clear you’re interested in other people too. What would you like to do together with your date? What do you enjoy in people? Show that you are someone who is great company, not just someone who expects people want to be with them.
When you’re talking to your date, either online or, eventually, in real life, don’t be afraid to listen more than you talk.
Be interested in what your date is telling you about themselves. Ask questions, smile and laugh. Focus on the interests and experiences you share, and don’t get hung up on the negatives. Because if you seem like someone who people want to be with, they’ll want to be with you.
Language matters when you’re online dating!
Words of love and everyday life
Don’t be afraid of words! All the new casual dating sites that have appeared recently have transformed the game of seduction into something like a video game.
The result? Many singles have given up dating altogether as it is just too exhausting! However, many singles are looking for serious, deeper and more authentic encounters and a long-term relationship.
The key to this new demand for authenticity is through words. Yes, even in the instant world of online dating, words are what really count.
Let’s start with the words you use to describe yourself. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, but our singles consistently tell us that a profile description matters more to them than a photo*.
It’s important, especially on a serious dating site, that you take the time to make your written presentation as good as it can be, and reveal your true self honestly and carefully. And words can break the ice! It can be hard to introduce yourself to a single you find interesting; it is always difficult to find the right way to approach them and find THE message that will attract their attention. Anyone can write ‘hello’, but is it going to make you stand out from the crowd during your encounters? In dating first impressions count, and the first words you exchange online can make all the difference.
Finally, words say a lot during a first date in real life.
Looks really aren’t everything, and when you’re finally face-to-face in front of a person, you can’t hide behind your screen any more! But rest assured, people generally prefer good humour to good looks on a first date, and they want someone with whom they can share an interesting conversation. The most important thing is to be yourself and stay as natural as possible.